How to be supportive when your partner has a miscarriage?


Although IVF provides excellent help to couples who want to become pregnant, miscarriage is still possible. And even if IVF success rates can be high, miscarriage is quite a widespread phenomenon. Since a miscarriage is a very difficult experience for couples, especially for women, this blog article addresses husbands and partners who don't know how to act when they go through such a challenging process. 

The first thing to do is not to minimize the situation. Everyone processes feelings differently, so it is important to be as comprehensive as possible. Healing takes time, so it is crucial to let your partner process this event at her own pace. 

The following step is to talk openly and directly about the event. In addition to the anxiety of not being able to be a mother and sometimes the shame of not having been able to complete the motherhood journey, there is the impression of having lost one's social status, one's reason for being and sometimes a feeling of loss of control over one's life. Do not let your partner be alone in accepting this event. 

Open communication is vital at this point. If you see that your partner needs more, maybe suggest psychological support. 

A French study about miscarriages showed a lack of communication between the woman who suffered a miscarriage and her surroundings. The study also showed that during the three following months after a miscarriage, the woman often shows signs of depression. 

Women often feel guilty after a miscarriage and blame their bodies. You should explain to your partner that miscarriages can happen to many women and have solutions. Try to help your partner to feel good again in her own body. 

From a medical point of view, nothing prevents the couple from trying again after a miscarriage. Good things take time. That is why it is important for the couple and especially the woman to feel comfortable in her body to try again. Sometimes miscarriages can involve psychological factors. However, doctors recommend waiting between 2 or 3 months to try again. 

At Unica, our team always tries to find the most suitable treatment for every couple. But we are also here to give you advice and help you go through difficulties like a miscarriage.


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